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Disadvantages of Divorce by DivorceInfo
Here’s a quick list of the disadvantages of divorce:
Divorce ends your marriage
Divorce costs money
Divorce hurts
Divorce reduces living standards
Divorce changes personal relationships
Divorce may strain your relationship with your church or synagogue
Divorce hurts children
Disadvantages of Divorce by DivorceInfo

Divorce Advice

How would you like to pay an attorney tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars to lose your case intentionally for you?

I was blessed to have a great divorce attorney, Victoria Norwich, who is honest and self-sacrificing to a fault. She is a deeply committed Christian woman who fights for those treated unfairly, and she operates out of Southern California.

My previous attorney, David Prince of Saratoga, California was not so honorable. He presented himself as a pro-family attorney fighting against unilateral no-fault divorce laws. And because of that, I hoped he might help me in my case. But he showed himself quick to captalize on my family’s duress, exhaust retainers rapidly with little to show while demanding more money before major events with the threat of abandonment if I should not be able to obtain the additional money. When I ran out of money, he told me to beg from my parents. It became clear our family had two choices. Let Mr. Prince run my parent’s finances into the ground, and get abandoned, or don’t let Mr. Prince do that, and still get abandoned. So, I let David Prince go.

Having been paid in full from a retainer, and being owed nothing, and having been paid many thousands of dollars more than he was worth, he wanted more money, so he put a lien on my home for $8,400. This man is no less a robber than someone who goes into a bank and says, “Stick em up” to the teller. The only difference is he is still operating as a lawyer.

So, watch out!

In divorce court today, where justice is prostituted, many attorneys practice putting on an image of professional empathy, sympathy, making it appear they understand what you are going through. They want you to believe they care and are on your side. And some attorneys are sincere. But, many see your situation as an opportunity to prosper from your losses. And financially, they may have more incentive hurt you than help you. After all, if they are paid by the hour from a retainer and things go unfortunately sour for you, then your only recourse is to go back to court, and that means return business.

One thing you may want to do is buy books and study what happens in divorces in your state so you won’t be blindsided. You may benefit from asking others you know who were faithful in their marriages but were forced to suffer through a divorce. Ask them which attorney they used and what the outcome was and whether they were happy with the outcome. Also consider the fees. Higher fees do not imply a better lawyer, but they will guarantee you will run out of money more quickly.

Truth is, if you are a faithful spouse being forced through a divorce, you should never be robbed of your home, your children, your property, life savings, retirement, and you should not have to pay attorney fees, and you should be entitled to have your spouse cover the costs of his or her crimes against your family.

Another truth is, things don’t work fairly in America or any other nation foolish enough to follow our rotten example. Unilateral no fault divorce is an unfair system. It is an unreasonable system. It is an unconstitutional system, and those who say it isn’t are either ignorant, or they’re lying. But another sad truth is that some people lie, and some people prosper from helping destroy the families of little children for money.

So, it would be wise to be ready and pray for grace to get through this ordeal as it may be the toughest ordeal of your entire life. If you lose your temper at the injustice and the lies, they may use it against you and say, “You’re such an angry person; no wonder your spouse is divorcing you!” Although their lies may be stupid and irritating, if they work, they may very well use any lie that will function as expected.

All in all, it is probably best not to assume the court or the judge or the attorneys will be fair and honest because you may be sorely disappointed and blindsided. At the same time, it is equally good not to assume they are evil because it may put you on the defensive emotionally and make you vulnerable to anger. Treat the judge with respect. Often you may find you are blessed to have an honorable and good judge, but a judge who is restricted by the same unjust laws that affect you.

So handle this situation with prayer. Pray for wisdom. Prepare. Study. This will build confidence and help you deal with the stressful situations that are to come. Make sure you have a good emotional support system with family and friends praying with you.

Divorce Advice