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Judy Parejko wrote an excellent book called Stolen Vows

This book won't let you go until you have read it completely. Here is a story of a woman who worked as a family court mediator until she began trying to help couples with viable marriages find help to resolve their problems rather than divorce. After it seemed marriages were being saved, suddenly she found the door to her office locked.

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A cry from the heart about divorce

The author of "Stolen Vows", Judy Parejko, was a mediation specialist working in the field of divorce.

This book is a result of working for the family courts. "My clients were the anguished parents going through a divorce who were sent by the judge to work out the living arrangements of their children" (P 11).

The problem with no fault divorce is that it fails to recognize the great damage divorce does to children.

By now, we have had some forty years, and well over one million studies, that have shown how much divorce harms children. The studies make for painful reading. Children raised by single parents end up poorer, more poorly educated, frequently emotionally damaged, and frequently unable to form emotional bonds with other people. They are at many times greater risk for drug abuse and sexual problems than children from intact homes. Some studies have shown that 80-90% of those who end up in prison came from single parent households. That's a pretty staggering statistic.

For the sake of these children, changes to the divorce laws are urgently needed.

"Stolen Vows" points out another fault in no fault divorce. It means, essentially, there is no marriage contract. You cannot break a contract you agreed to about your house or your car. But when it comes to marriage if one person wants out, that's it, the contract is void. The man or woman who wants out is in control and can force a divorce upon an unwilling spouse.

Yet, "Lawyers and other professionals with whom I worked often minimized the pain of divorce. They characterized divorce clients as just 'emotionally out of control'" (P 93)instead of seeing that the grinding legal process could be the cause of problems.

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