Divorce - The Ultimate Abuse

Perhaps this sounds a trite, but truth is, unfaithfulness is the root cause of divorce.

Did you feel like arguing, "Not always"? Did you find examples where unfaithfulness had no part in a divorce? Perhaps where a spouse had never as much as looked at a member of the opposite sex, but because of a violent temper, gambling, poverty, or a difference in personality, the couple could no longer remain together?

Unfaithfulness is still at the root of every divorce.

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Unfaithfulness to the Wedding Vows

When couples state their vows, they promise to love faithfully until death. No divorce can happen without either the husband or the wife making a choice to be unfaithful to the wedding promises. They may argue and say they did it for good reason, but when they married, was that reason a condition of their promise? Did they promise to stay together as long as they got their needs met? Did they promise to stay together as long as they were happy? Did they promise to stay together as long as their spouse was healthy or rich or had no bothersome faults or habits? If not, then why do they argue that their reason for divorce is a good one?

Unfaithfulness to God

It is impossible to be faithful to God while warring against a marriage. God said He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). Obviously people do not injure, wreck, or destroy their families or their marriages in order to please God. A marriage is a promise to God, and breaking a marriage is cheating God, lying to God, telling God He is not worthy to have a right to expect that our promises to Him will be honored. It injures God where it hurts Him deeply.

Unfaithfulness to One's Children

Part of the reason the binding commitment of marriage is so important is that God wants every child to experience the blessing of growing up in an unbroken home, a loving home, a secure home, a home of mature, unselfish, sincere, devotion to the best well-being of the family. And, when parents work with God to bring this blessing to their children faithfully, they are much more likely to carry the blessing down the generations. But, when people are selfish, inconsiderate, dishonest, unfaithful, and willing to let their children suffer this horrible, miserable loss so they can pursue their own lusts, this, too is carried down to future generations.

Unfaithfulness to Family

When a husband or wife desecrates the marriage, the rest of the family often grieves and wonders where they went wrong and how they might have contributed to this failure. Parents blame themselves for failing to raise their children to be faithful. Children blame themselves for making Mommy and Daddy fight. And, even though the divorce may be caused by one partner's sins alone, the rest of the family often feels compelled to blame themselves. Quite ironically, the ones at fault are usually happy to let others accept the blame as their interest is not in saving the marriage or making things better but making themselves comfortable.

Unfaithfulness to Society

When people devalue their own marriages, they devalue the principle of marriage. The main principle of marriage is that it is binding. If it isn't binding, then it isn't a real marriage, but a fake one.

When people demand the so-called "right" to divorce, they denounce and renounce the right to marry. They make their own marriage and wedding ceremony nothing but an unholy lie and a swindle and a mockery of something that is very holy in the eyes of God.

Look at Hollywood. Here we find people squandering millions on soap opera weddings -- pomp and circumstance without the substance. Here, they lie and promise to stay faithfully loving until death and then break up a few weeks or months later.

So many times we judge people for "living in sin" or living together, sleeping together, engaging in sex without being married. So, they carry out a ceremony that's a lie, a swindle, a mockery only to show the insincerity and hypocrisy of that commitment with a divorce. Like a harlot in slow motion, they wander from partner to partner.

Unfaithfulness to Oneself

The person untrue to his wedding vows denounces the value of his or her word and destroys his credibility, the value of his word, his integrity, his honor, his soul. Even the excuses and justifications he gives are lies and give evidence that this person is a liar at heart.

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