Suicide and Depression

Suicide is another common fallout of our high divorce rates. People who commit suicide do not want to die. They want to stop the pain.

Sometimes children commit suicide to get revenge with their parents for breaking up the family. It's an expression of anger. Children often feel that their pain is too great and that it will never end.

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Adults often overlook how important their marriages are to their children. There are few forms of child abuse as severe as adultery and divorce. It tears down the value of the abandoned parent and tears down the integrity and decency of the adulterous parent and leave the children feeling they are the children of adulterers and losers.

Children get caught in the tug-o-war, and our wonderful divorce laws fan this conflict into a raging fire by overlooking fault in divorce irresponsibly and by offering support payments to the parent who wins the kids, and quite often it is the unfaithful or abusive parent. Often the divorce process beats up the faithful parent so much that they cannot argue back when the unfaithful and their partners try to say they're unable to handle the children as well alone.

Children grow up separated from one child or the other and from that it is not hard to come to the conclusion that any loved one can be lost. There is no longer loving cooperation between the parents working together, living together, providing a foundation of family love that is secure and benevolent to the children.

Sometimes kids attempt suicide to get attention, and sometimes they really don't intend to commit suicide, but they succeed anyway. Some kids go into drugs. Some join gangs to regain the feeling of family they lost. When their family breaks apart, it is very difficult for them to trust their family to stay together and they may see a gang as a more stable family. Then fear of rejection steps in and brings peer pressure to show loyalty, and that could be by sexual activity, drug usage, smoking, body piercing, tattoos, orgies, and such. They may even do a drive by shooting, a robbery, or get into gang violence, sell drugs, etc.

People who commit suicide don't take into consideration that they may wake from their suicide in hell where they can no longer escape. But, they may feel that if their own parents are incapable of providing a happy and loving family life for them, perhaps their Heavenly Father will also be unable to provide a heaven that is a good place to be.

So often children get a notion of what God is like from their parents. If their parents are loving, they will see God as a loving God. If their parents were abusive or unfaithful, they may find it hard to trust God.

That is why it is absolutely vital that we do all we can to urge everyone to honor marriage faithfully and bless their families diligently and not demand that their spouse do it first.

When adults think about getting into adultery or divorce, they should think what effect they want to have on their children. The first thing that unfaithful parents may claim is that the children are resilient and will be fine if the parents handle the divorce well, but children will always be hurt by adultery and divorce no matter what else is done to prevent it. Some people may feel divorce is better than fighting. Rape is better than murder, too, but that doesn't mean people should rape. Why is it intelligent or reasonable to choose between the two worst choices one can make when any parent can choose to build up the family rather than tear it down while tearing down their children?

Isn't it better than ending up with a child burning in hell for all eternity just because one parent would not live honorably?